Ever wonder what makes someone tick beneath the surface smiles and casual chats? These 120 questions to ask a girl dive past the small talk into the curious, the chaotic, and the quietly beautiful corners of who she is. From deep musings to weird hypotheticals, this list isn’t just for conversation, it’s for connection!
Questions to Ask to Know a Girl
1. Do you believe closure is necessary, or is it something we create for ourselves?
2. If you could press fast forward to one moment in your life, which one would you skip to?
3. What part of yourself do you think is most misunderstood?
4. Would you rather be understood or accepted?
5. Do you express yourself better through silence, words, or actions?
6. What keeps you going on days when everything feels heavy?
7. Do you think vulnerability is a strength or a risk?
8. What’s something you lowkey hope someone remembers about you forever?
9. Do you think you're more of a sunrise or a sunset type of person—and why?
10. What’s something small you wish more people noticed about the world?
11. What’s the one thing that always brings you back to yourself when you feel a little lost?
Flirty Questions to Ask a Girl
12. Would you rather fall slowly or get swept off your feet all at once?
13. What’s more attractive - confidence or mystery?
14. What’s more fun: someone who makes you laugh or someone who gives you butterflies?
15. Are you the type to make the first move… or just make someone want to?
16. What’s something small that makes you feel instantly seen or special?
17. What kind of attention do you secretly crave but rarely admit?
18. What’s your emotional green flag in someone?
19. Do you prefer passion that burns fast or one that stays warm and steady?
20. Do you think it’s more thrilling to chase someone… or to be the reason they stop running?
21. Do you believe chemistry can be built—or is it either there or not from the start?
22. What’s something innocent that still feels incredibly intimate to you?
23. What’s your “I’m definitely into you but trying not to show it” move?
24. What’s your most “I swear I’m not flirting” move… that’s totally flirting?
25. Do you flirt better in person, or is texting your battlefield?
26. What kind of compliment makes you instantly soft inside?
Deep Questions to Ask a Girl
27. What’s a belief you once held strongly but now question?
28. Do you think your past heartbreaks taught you how to love better or made you more guarded?
29. What’s a dream you secretly hold but haven’t told anyone?
30. Do you think love is more about choice or chance?
31. Is there someone you wish you had loved better?
32. What’s something you’ve outgrown but still miss?
33. Is there a version of yourself you’re still trying to become?
34. What’s something you crave in love that you’ve never received?
35. What’s one thing your younger self would be proud of today?
36. Do you feel seen for who you are—or who people expect you to be?
37. What’s something you’ve always wanted to unlearn?
38. Have you ever felt lonely even when you were surrounded by people?
39. What’s something you’ve forgiven, but haven’t forgotten?
Romantic Questions to Ask a Girl
40. Is there a song that perfectly captures what love feels like to you?
41. What’s something romantic you’ve always wanted to experience, but haven’t yet?
42. What makes you feel butterflies that you never admit out loud?
43. Do you believe in soul connections, or do you think love is something we build?
44. What kind of love do you daydream about?
45. What’s the most romantic thing someone’s ever said to you?
46. If love was a playlist, what three songs would tell your story so far?
47. Do you think two people can grow together without ever growing apart?
48. If you could describe a perfect evening in one word, what would it be?
49. What’s the most unexpected thing that’s ever caught your attention about someone?
50. Is there something about a person that makes you feel instantly more connected, even without words?
51. When you think about love, what’s the first thing that comes to mind—peace, excitement, or something else?
52. Do you believe the best kind of love grows slowly, or do you think it can spark instantly between two people?
Funny Questions to Ask a Girl
53. What's your “I’m home alone and no one’s watching” guilty pleasure?
54. If you had to survive a zombie apocalypse with only kitchen items—what’s your weapon of choice?
55. Would you rather have a laugh that sounds like a car alarm or a hiccup that echoes like a foghorn?
56. What conspiracy theory do you wish was true just because it would be hilarious?
57. Would you rather go on a horrible first date with someone hot… or a perfect date with someone who says “YOLO” unironically?
58. What’s the most ridiculous thing you’ve done to get out of a bad date?
59. Would you rather be stuck in Paris with no phone or stuck in a cabin with bad Wi-Fi but unlimited wine and me?
60. If we were stuck in a rom-com, which one of us is the chaotic lead and who’s the confused love interest?
61. What’s more attractive: good hugs, good banter, or the ability to parallel park without dying inside?
62. What’s the weirdest thing you’ve ever Googled and still can’t believe you did?
63. If you could only communicate using one animal noise for a whole day, which would you pick and how would you make it flirty?
64. Would you rather have fingers that glow like rave sticks every time you’re hungry or a butt that honks like a clown car when you’re nervous?
65. If you had to replace your hands with kitchen utensils for a week, what’s your pick, and how’s that first date gonna go?
Weird Questions to Ask a Girl
66. Would you rather sneeze glitter for the rest of your life or burp tiny soap bubbles that float around?
67. If your shadow had a personality of its own, what kind of attitude would it have?
68. Would you rather get love letters written by a poet version of me… or telepathic messages sent while you’re brushing your teeth?
69. Would you rather talk in Shakespearean English every full moon or spontaneously break into song when you get nervous?
70. What’s the weirdest dream you’ve ever had that lowkey felt like it meant something?
71. Would you rather have a personal theme song play every time you entered a room… or a dramatic slow clap from invisible strangers?
72. What’s one super specific thing you irrationally feel competitive about—even though no one else is playing?
73. If your life had a “skip intro” button, which part of your day would you hit it on every time?
74. If our souls were colors, what shade would we turn when we’re around each other?
75. If I asked you on a date using only emojis, what three would make you say yes?
Questions to Ask a Girl Over Text
76. If I were there right now, what’s the first thing you’d want to do?
77. Do you like late-night deep talks or early-morning sweet texts more?
78. What’s your texting ick?
79. What’s the most embarrassing autocorrect fail you’ve ever sent?
80. What's the funniest lie you’ve ever told just to end a convo?
81. Text me 3 words that describe how your day’s going—go!
82. If I could teleport to you for five minutes right now, what would you want us to do?
83. Is there a part of you that feels safer talking through texts than face-to-face?
84. What's something small you'd love to wake up to from me? A voice note? A photo? A text?
85. When you miss someone, do you like more texts or fewer but meaningful ones?
86. What’s your texting green flag?
87. What’s your “texting love language”? Voice notes, memes, deep questions, or random check-ins?
88. Do you believe some conversations only happen better over text?
Questions to Ask a Girl about Her Family
89. What's one word you'd use to describe your family dynamic?
90. Do you have a family tradition that feels uniquely yours?
91. What's your fondest memory of a family gathering?
92. Is your family more traditional or modern in values?
93. What does “home” feel like to you?
94. Do you think your family shaped your personality?
95. Who’s the “funny one” in your family?
96. What’s your family’s idea of “quality time”?
97. What’s your favorite family vacation memory?
98. How close are you with your grandparents?
99. What’s something you learned from an elder?
100. Do you see yourself in any of your ancestors?
101. Who do you go to first when you’re upset in your family?
102. Do you fight often with your siblings?
103. What’s your favorite one-on-one memory with each parent?
104. Who do you admire the most in your family?
105. Do your family’s beliefs match yours?
106. What topic do you avoid bringing up at family dinners?
Questions to Ask Your Girlfriend
107. What was the first thing you noticed about me that made your heart skip a beat?
108. If you could design the perfect date night with zero limits, what would it look like?
109. Do you ever think about how different your life would be if we never met?
110. Is there a moment with me that you secretly replay in your head when you miss me?
111. If I had you all to myself for 24 hours, no distractions—how would you want to spend it?
112. If money and time weren’t an issue, what would your ideal life look like?
113. When do you feel most emotionally connected to me?
114. If we ever have a tough time in our relationship, what’s the one thing you want us to always hold onto?
115. What’s one thing we could both work on to make our love even stronger?
116. How would you describe our love story in three words?
117. If you could press pause on time during one of our moments, when would it be?
118. We were to write our own wedding vows right now, what’s one line you’d include?
119. What’s one milestone you’re most excited to reach with me?
120. What’s a random topic you could talk about for hours without getting bored?
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